Premature Ejaculation Strategies – How to Prevent It
Premature ejaculation (PE) is estimated to affect 20–40% of the general men population, to some extent. In this article I share things that have helped me last longer in the bed. Strategies that have helped reduce the anxiety of premature ejaculation.
What premature ejaculation means?
Premature ejaculation means: a man experiences orgasm and bursts semen quickly after sexual activity, with minimal penis stimulation.
Basically, premature ejaculation means that you ejaculate sooner than you want, in some cases right after you start sexual intercourse. International Society for Sexual Medicine maintains the definition of 1 minute for early ejaculation.
So, if you bust your nut before or around 1 minute after start of the penetration. You have this condition called “premature ejaculation”. But you’re not alone, hundreds of million men have this condition.
What is causing premature ejaculation?
There can be many causes for premature ejaculation like lack of experience. Some kind of anxiety, stress, performance issues, lack of usage, genetic problem. High penis sensitivity, a side effect of certain medications. Or even some weird mental condition from over masturbation & porn consumption.
In this article we go through the causes of premature ejaculation and how to fix your premature ejaculation. By using strategies that have helped thousands of men.
Are you sure you have premature ejaculation?
Whenever I have sex and I haven’t cummed in multiple days. It just is a fact that I can’t last long. And depending on the partner I can’t really penetrate that much without cumming in just minute(s).
Your woman might want MORE but you just spill the beans too quickly and she starts rolling her eyes.
It can be VERY annoying experience if you continually experience that. So that lead me to research on this topic and experiment with different things.
I remember a time I had not climaxed in a week and had sex spontaneously. Needless to say I was about to ejaculate LITERALLY almost instantly after I started to penetrate her.
Even with stop-pause penetrating, I just came way too early. In a matter of minutes, it happens, and of course she just rolled her eyes as she wanted more.
She was asking “why I stop” between the pauses and she kept moaning that “I’m so close don’t stop”. But if I kept thrusting I would’ve cummed even faster, in under a minute.
When this happens and you see that you can’t give your partner that satisfaction she craves. You’re motivated to improve because you know she can orgasm from penetration. Yut your premature ejaculation is in the way of achieving that.
I set out to find a way – once and for all. To find help for premature ejaculation and fix this issue.
How can you combat premature ejaculation?
The common belief is that there are no “one-night” solution for premature ejaculation that works for every man. However, there are some strategies that you can start applying and improving this condition.
You really have to adopt good testing mentality where you test different strategies. Until you find one that works the best for you.
First of all, most men want to bust a nut quickly. But this trains your mind and body to cum quickly. When you’ve conditioned yourself this way for years. Then when you’re with a real woman you’ll no doubt cum quickly and it’ll be all over in minutes.
This is a massive problem. A bigger problem than any penis size problem will ever be. You won’t do anything with a big penis if you have this problem. The same goes for erection problems and a lack of strong erections. Your sex partner will never like that if you have a weak erection and come too quickly. No matter how big your penis is.
But you can reprogram yourself. You can start to masturbate slowly, not fastly. With the intention of not cumming fastly, prolonging it. This reprograms your premature ejaculation pattern.
With time you’ll no more cum quickly with a woman making it all over in minutes. You’ll learn to be cognizant of your orgasm mechanism. Eventually with experimenting you could learn the ability to have multiple orgasms. And be able to have an orgasm without ejaculation.
This is one of the most important things to address, more important than your penis enlargement plan. It should be all about penis enhancement (PE), not just penis enlargement.
You really don’t do anything with a large penis. If you don’t have other aspects of great sexual health as well. Premature ejaculation is a very big problem amongst modern young men making them not great lovers. Making women look elsewhere after bad sex experiences with these minute men.
If you can’t bring satisfaction to your partner, then someone else will, remember that. Fixing this should be your #1 priority. More important than your penis size. I urge you to stop thinking does size matter. When you won’t do anything with a bigger size penis if you still have this root issue.
Premature ejaculation is one of the biggest deal breakers and reasons that women leave their men. The men who can’t keep their women just CAN’T GIVE THEIR WOMEN what they want & need. Fixing this is possible when you know what to fix, and that should be your priority focus.
Basic strategies for premature ejaculation
Next I will list and examine well-known strategies for premature ejaculation. These are only for educational purposes, not for recommendation or medical advice.
Ditch the porn masturbation
Do not watch porn on the regular and do not masturbate to porn by busting a nut quickly. What this will do is condition your mind and body to cum quickly. This will have major consequences when you actually have sex with a real-life woman and not just solo sex.
If you do masturbate (nothing wrong with that). Then remember to do it slowly and stretch it out, and do not try to do it quickly. You can basically condition yourself to last longer by masturbating more slowly.
Most young men have conditioned themselves to cum quickly. By masturbating with such a grip and speed that has conditioned them to a bad position. That has led to getting chronic premature ejaculation state when actually having sex with a real person.
You might actually think that this is not true and might dismiss it. But in the end, it will turn into a problematic condition. When in fact this might be the very reason why you will struggle once you get to have sex with your ideal woman/partner.
Just think about it, you finally get to the bedroom with that dream woman of yours. And you actually experience a weak erection, and quickly you’ll notice that you’ve climaxed before it hasn’t barely even started.
What a letdown, what a failure. Most attractive women obviously do not stay to watch this. When they can actually get a man that can do this job thousands of times better. But you did this to yourself, you conditioned yourself to be like this.
But you can change. It all starts with removing daily habits that ruin you. It doesn’t cost you anything but gains you everything.
Excessive porn and quick nut-busting masturbation habits lead quickly to chronic premature ejaculation conditions. Gladly you can rid yourself of that condition, just by changing your habits.
The change isn’t instant, but you can reprogram yourself in just months for most men. But it can take longer for men with over 10 years of chronic porn masturbation.
It can be ok to watch porn sometimes. But it is not recommended that you bust a nut fastly watching porn. As it creates a very bad circle of premature ejaculation when you’re with a real woman.
Nobody wants minute men who are bad lovers. Men that can’t bring orgasms via penetration even if their life depended on it. When you think of a great lover you think of a man who’s in control of his own body. He cums when he wants. He doesn’t have premature ejaculation problems. Nor the opposite “death grip” problem where men can’t cum with a real sex encounter.
You have to get rid of this porn-induced masturbation premature orgasm. It creates major damage to your ability to have satisfactory real-life sex and have long stamina. Where you do not experience premature ejaculation. But rather can climax when you want to and can bring extraordinary satisfaction to your partner.
Remember this information before this habit corrupts your ability to last longer. But let’s move to other tips that will give you an edge when it comes to having better sex. Sex that’ll blow your partner’s mind and have her begging to meet you again & again.
Kegel training
Probably the most commonly known strategy for premature ejaculation is kegel exercises. Almost everybody knows about kegel exercises, but how many actually do them consistently? Not many.
Like Tony Robbins says: knowledge means nothing, what you do consistently is what matters. You have to develop a habit of doing kegel exercises. You have to add these exercises to your daily routines.
For example, if you spend 30 minutes watching TV everyday, do kegels while you watch Netflix. Do kegels while sitting in a subway or train.
Consistency is what matters. It’s the same as going to the gym, you won’t be jacked after 2 weeks but rather in years. It could take years to train your kegel muscle to levels where you can control your ejaculation.
Distracting your thoughts (DO NOT FALL FOR THIS MYTH)
Probably the most stupidest strategy for premature ejaculation is trying to distract yourself while having sex. This stuff is tabloid level bullshit.
Actually you have to do the opposite, which is training yourself to focus more on your body’s sensations.
Meditation and being ‘present’
Meditation and “being in the now” also helps immensely in all this. Being cognizant of your body sensations and knowing when you’re about to orgasm.
Being present is just about being still with your thoughts and letting them come and go without judging. Or not engaging with your inner chatter. It’s not exactly rocket science, even though for people unfamiliar with the subject it might sound like it.
There are books on this topic. One of the best books on being present is Echart Tolle’s The Power of Now. I highly recommend this book to everyone.
Not many people would think that meditation and being present would help in your sexual health and performance. But these might be the true actual missing key for most people.
Usually, the problem can be located in this exact department. Stress (and its management) being one of the major contributors to how your hormones and overall sexual health performs.
You won’t get raging hard erections when you’re having stress problems. Won’t have a great sexual performance nor even want to have sex at all.
This needs to be managed by FREE tools such as meditation. And learning to be more present in your everyday life consistently. For start start reading The Power of Now daily. It’s one of the best books to own a hard copy of. And it’s not a bad idea to listen to it on Audible either.
Learning your arousal levels
Basically, in this strategy you change your arousal levels to numbers. 10 is a point of no return and 1 is no erection. You learn these by masturbating and focusing on your bodily sensations.
The purpose is to learn where you reach the point of no return, so you can stop before it happens. After you have trained this for a while you actually know when you’re about to cum and can adjust accordingly. You can stop fucking, change position, etc. After your arousal has lowered you start to hammer again.
So basically, you can have penetrative sex as long as you like and climax whenever your want.
Good working strategy, but it takes time to learn and use properly.
Numbing gels
Anesthetizing your penis for sex sounds really retarded, who would want to numb their pleasure. While this might sound stupid at first, there are studies that says that numbing gels might actually help certain individuals.
In this study made in 2003 men who suffered from premature ejaculation sprayed numbing gel to their penises 15 minutes before sex. Without numbing gel, these guys ejaculated in about 1.5 minutes. But with the spray they could hammer more than 11 minutes. The study noted that average vaginal sex bust time increased about 8 times.
“Topical LP spray, applied to the glans penis 15 min before intercourse, prolongs ejaculation time significantly and improves sexual satisfaction in both men with PE and their partners.” – Study
There is also another study that showed improvements with a similar gels (study).
This kinda spray might be worth testing if you think your premature ejaculation is caused by extra sensitive penis. There are lot of positive reviews for number 1 best seller in this category: Promescent Desensitizing Delay Spray for Men in Amazon.com
Thicker and numbing condoms
Some people do stupid things like trying to put 2 condoms on top of each other because they read that stuff on the Internet. That strategy won’t work and the condoms will break and it could lead into unfortunate end result.
If you want to try this strategy, then just get some thicker condoms like Lifestyles Extra Strength. I can confirm from dozens of experiences that thicker condoms work well in helping you not be that premature ejaculation guy.
Also, currently there are many condom brands that have some kind of numbing gel inside them. For example Trojan Extended Climax Control which uses Benzocaine as a numbing agent.
You can actually use these even if you have unprotected raw sex with your regular partner. By just putting them on for 5-10 minutes before you have sex.
You can perform oral sex in the meantime and have the Trojan Extended condoms Benzocaine (male genital desensitizer) numbing gel do its work.
Then when you’re ready you can take the condom off and start penetrating. (if you have condomless sex with your partner). And you can last longer and prevent premature ejaculation.
Of course there is a problem that you take this numbing agent to your partner. This way they’ll end up being number also. This ending up not being that optimal strategy.
Again these kinda solutions are just short term fixes but useful in some cases. For example thicker condom surely does actually work.
Dapoxetine (Priligy) for premature ejaculation?
Dapoxetine is originally invented as a antidepressant. But as it didn’t do the job, drug companies started to market it as a “cure for premature ejaculation”. Yes, according to studies it seems to work a little better than a placebo. But it’s still unclear how it actually works.
I guess there is some mental and central nervous system stuff going on with this stuff.
“Dapoxetine, as the first drug developed for PE, is an effective and safe treatment for PE and represents a major advance in sexual medicine.” – Dapoxetine: a new option in the medical management of premature ejaculation
In some cases this kinda solution could have some use case as the last option. But there are some adverse effects and drug reactions, so you have to discuss this with your doctor.
Fortacin™ spray for premature ejaculation
Fortacin is the new drug containing the active substances lidocaine and prilocaine. Fortacin is available as a spray solution and is sprayed to penis before sexual intercourse. One dose contains 7.5 milligrams of lidocaine. A medication used to numb tissue in a specific area. And 2.5 milligrams of prilocaine (local anesthetic).
Lidocaine and prilocaine are topical anesthetics that block the transmission of signals in the nerves. This reduces penis sensitivity and delays the ejaculation.
“Fortacin™ is the first topical treatment to be officially approved for the treatment of primary PE in adult men, and is mentioned as an experimental aerosol (as TEMPE) in the current European Association of Urology guidelines. It was approved for use in the European Union and launched in the United Kingdom in November 2016. Fortacin™ is a eutectic-like mixture of lidocaine 150 mg/mL and prilocaine 50 mg/mL that meets the requirements of an ideal treatment for PE because it is fast acting (within 5 minutes), has durable effects, can be easily used “on-demand”, and shows minimal side-effects.” – Source
Fortacina is only available with a prescription. You have to discuss with your doctor if you want to try it.
Are there effective supplements for premature ejaculation?
I have tested hundreds of supplements and herbs for improved stamina and sexual performance. And I can say for certain, that 99% pills and herbs that are marketed for premature ejaculation are 100% bullshit.
Some people are marketing Ayurvedic and traditional Chinese natural herbs for premature ejaculation. Rarely do people get any changes or results with those.
Science hardly has proved any benefits from those. Not that they cannot give benefits to some, obviously that’s possible.
I can’t really recommend any supplements solely for premature ejaculation. However, there are some of the things that have helped me to last longer. Of course, my experiences could just be a placebo effect.
Shilajit
One of the weirdest things I have stuffed into my mouth to reduce premature ejaculation is this stuff called shilajit. Which is black ash gel (available also as a powder) that oozes from inside volcanic mountains. Literally, I have no idea what this stuff is doing to my penis, but it seems to actually work.
Whenever I tried this black “volcano ash” shilajit I always experienced that I didn’t actually cum that fast. I actually had to work for it to cum even when having raw sex without condoms. However, there are some studies where Shilajit has increased sperm quality and testosterone in infertile male (source).
It was the weirdest thing ever when using Shilajit and having sex. I actually don’t even use it anymore as I’m not 100% sure of its benefits. Honestly, my experience can be just a confirmation bias also.
But for the people who are inspired to try it you can see for yourself.
I personally took it with my coffee. Just a small amount like tip of the teaspoon which is about 1 gram. Or just take shilajit extract capsule from a legimite producer.
Try to pop those capsules specially on the days when you’re going to have sex.
Cloves
Personally cloves are more of a hack to get faster back into action after cumming.
There has been actual studies with mices. That proved they had sex more and recovered faster with the aid of cloves.
“Oral administration of the extract significantly increased the Mounting Frequency, Intromission Frequency; Intromission Latency, Erections; Quick Flips, Long Flips as well as aggregate of penile reflexes and caused significant reduction in the Mounting Latency and Post Ejaculatory Interval.” – Source
Such a damn cool hack for everyone. Plus cloves are one of the healthiest things you can put inside your body with its antioxidant power.
I’m using Simply Organic spice/herb products regularly and can recommend them.
I sprinkle this ground cloves in my coffee/tea and sometimes to smoothies also. Adding cloves consumption to your diet should become the norm. Especially on the days men want to last longer and have more sex. It works and is beneficial to your health in other ways.
Zinc
Zinc not only supports healthy immunity and cell growth. The essential mineral also helps produce testosterone as well as boost your libido and energy. Studies have shown that there is definitely some link between zinc deficiency and sexual dysfunction in men.
There are no human studies, however, in this rat study zinc increased ejaculation time.
“Zinc therapy (5 mg/day) improves sexual competence by increasing penile thrusting and prolonging ejaculatory latency without disturbing arousability and motivation of male rats. Increase in the T levels observed with zinc supplementation is beneficial in this regard.” – Source
One of the greatest dietary sources for zinc is for example pumpkin seeds. Organic pumpkin seed butter is quite good for those who don’t want to chew pumpkin seeds every night.
Pumpkin seed butter isn’t quite that good tasting as organic almond butter. Which also is a good zinc source. But I don’t eat pumpkin seeds for taste but rather for their extremely rich nutrition profile.
I also use regular roasted pumpkin seeds.
For zinc supplement I’ve used (for +5 years) OptiZinc from Now Foods.
I’ve found Now Foods OptiZinc to be result giving product with a zinc form that really works in my body. It also has one of the best price-quality ratio for a working zinc supplement:
Advanced strategies for preventing premature ejaculation
Below I’ll share few of the most working strategies that I personally have put into practical use.
Let’s start with a premature ejaculation hack that works really really well.
Foreplay (fellatio) as a strategy to prevent premature ejaculation
I’ve personally made a clear distinction between the sex times. Where I go almost instantly into action with my partner. Meaning into penetration, I most often cum prematurely.
And on some other times my partner performs long fellatio/blowjob on me. Around 20-30 minutes. And after that when we actually start fucking I’m always amazed about my performance.
In the latter case, with fellatio, there is no presence of premature ejaculation. NONE WHATSOEVER.
This leads me to conclude that receiving fellatio actually gives you nice stimulation. But not exactly the same kind of stimulation as penetration does.
Long fellatio makes the penis used to that stimulation. And you can actually get more of that stimulation for a longer period before busting up.
Ladies reading this can start performing long blowjobs for their partner before the deed. Men also can share this information with their partner. Encourage them to long foreplay and it’ll lead to long intercourse.
You can also perform 69 and stimulate your partner at the same time. And even make them cum before the intercourse.
Making your partner cum also lessens the pressure to perform on intercourse. Because your partner came already, less pressure also magically leads you to not actually bust that easy.
If you’re prone to bust quickly even from receiving fellatio, instruct your partner to suck less intense. And with lesser pressure. Sucking gently and licking all over. Get that penis used to stimulation, almost like preparing it for the intercourse.
Get long fellatio. After that start the intercourse and be cognizant of your bust point. Use start-stop religiously and you can have intercourses that last for hours. With time you can achieve mastery of your own ejaculation.
Practice with Stamina Training Unit
Fleshlight stamina training unit is a special masturbation tool that mimics and feels like a real vagina. Stamina training unit has been specially developed to stimulate the penis in a similar way that a real vagina does.
Imagine if you’re days or weeks without sex and then start penetrating instantly… Well, of course you’ll cum fast because the penis is not used to it.
Here is where training with the stamina training unit can help. With this tool your penis gets used to vaginal stimulation and eases the unbelievable stimulation from penetration.
Stamina Training Unit (STU) is a great tool especially for those who don’t have sex very often.
You can get these from sex stores and Amazon.com
Stronger erection as a strategy for PE (Premature Ejaculation)
Sometimes women want deep ROUGH pounding, and their man can’t give it to them because they cum so darn fast and then it’s over.
I too sometimes struggle with this. Can’t hammer partner of mine that well to make her cum from deep hammering. But…
One of the best solutions to reduce premature ejaculation has been pumping with a penis pump right before the date. This way I have MASSIVELY better endurance without premature ejaculation.
In my opinion penis pump can be a live saver for some men. It even deletes the anxiety about erectile dysfunction, because a penis pump forces erection on you.
If you actually happen to not get erection with your woman. And if you’re open minded and she’s open minded. You can actually whip out the penis pump and pump with her on the bed.
She can actually find that very exciting to watch your veiny cock turn big red chubby. Behind that see through plastic of the pump. She might try to lick it through the pump just to make you more excited.
Once you feel like you’re done with pumping and feel that you’ve expanded a lot. You remove the pressure and you have your bulgy cock throbbing infront of her face. She can’t wait to get it instantly on her mouth and feel you completely.
You see, most guys do not use penis pumps. Those who do are nonnegotiably bigger (in regarding the penis size) than the ones who don’t.
There’s literally no reason. even lack of time isn’t a reason because a good pumping session takes just 10 minutes. Giving temporarily bigger cock even if you aren’t regular with your penis enhancement routines.
I personally use Bathmate Hydromax7 penis pump. Formerly named Hydromax X30. I use it in the shower and it has served me perfectly for +6 years now.
Without a fail I get more chubbier girthier and longer cock with big mushroom head. And my partner absolutely loves it.
I also have one cheaper air pump. I can use that for example in the bed without water, just a simple Beginner’s Power Pump from Pipedream.
(This penis pump comes with a very nice & very tight cock ring. With it the veinyness of the cock is out of this world. Women have absolutely loved playing with cock ring enhanced extra chubby penis. Read more experiences with penis rings.)
I love the regular air pump for its ease of use. But Bathmate hydropump gives noticeably more potent pump and instantly bigger penis. Nothing beats Bathmate in my experience. Especially in its safety with warm water being protective factor in you not injuring your penis.
Although I believe it’s good to own both of these. As sometimes you just aren’t motivated to pump for around 10 minutes in the bathroom. Sometimes you just want to lie on your bed while pumping.
And regarding easing premature ejaculation. The fact that I pump in the next few hours after masturbating to completion makes me last longer. While preventing premature ejaculation with a sex partner.
Only cumming from masturbation doesn’t necessary help at all. I might even find myself unable to perform that well. But with the pressure of the penis pump I can “force” myself into an erection that expands with extra blood.
That right there makes me extra big and extra HARD with a sex partner. The hardness. The pounding capability. That you can have with this “recipe” is something that is incomparable to anything else in my experience.
I very much look forward to that feeling how well I can “lay pipe” HARD. Without orgasming so darn fast every time I follow this routine. One of the things that greatly enhances my confidence. I know that later when having sex I won’t be a minute man.
Always aim to pump your cock before the date or before the sex is about to happen. Personally the timing would be when she’s coming over in 30 minutes or right before I’m going to hers place. Just take a shower and use that pump on your penis. At this point I don’t even use any timers I just pump as long as it feels good. With experience you’ll learn to pump better and know when you’ve achieved just the perfect expansion for your penis.
Conclusion on the premature ejaculation matter
There are some strategies for premature ejaculation that you can start applying instantly. Test different strategies until you find one that works best for you.
One thing you can instantly start doing with your partner to ease premature ejaculation. Start receiving longer foreplay and fellatio before the intercourse, this works great.
Penis pumps are also viable solution. They’re very helpful for many men out there struggling with penis size. Or struggling with ED (erectile dysfunction). See Bathmate FAQ for more information.
Penis pumps are also great for people with big penises whom can have struggles to get it fully erected. Because of the size having problems getting blood pumping there.
Pumps have so many benefits that I can’t actually understand why every man doesn’t use one regularly. It gives benefits that can change a man’s sex life. After experiencing it you can’t ever look back to time you had sex without pumping.
It’s definitely addictive to have sex with a bigger penis. Never thought that it was actually possible but hydropump achieves instant boost to your size. That still shows when you have sex straight after pumping. Permanent size boost from using penis pumps takes dedication and time. But you can always have safe temporary size boost whenever you use your pump.
I wholeheartedly recommend to try penis pumps like Bathmate hydropump or regular penis pumps. I believe every man should own one.
It’s 2023 and this actually gives unfair advantage to the people who do not use penis pumps at all. Or other gadgets like cock rings for that matter.
Nutrition changes aren’t changes that’ll produce any fast results, or results at all. But some of them can be tried.
Masturbating to completion before with penis pump use. After that receiving long fellatio. Would be my first go-to whenever I start to worry about premature ejaculation nowadays.
Try these strategies for premature ejaculation and see how they work for you. Feel free to ask questions privately on the contact page.
